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Our chapter academic advisor is an elder man, great professor, and very
giving when it comes to his time to the chapter and brothers. He also
is a member of our AVC. The problem is that he has somewhat of an
offending body odor. I don't know if he doesn't bathe, or if he just
doesn't send his shirts or suits to the cleaners often enough?
The problem is how do we let him know without offending this older
gentleman? It is so bad that brothers don't even want to ride in the
same car as he when attending out of town events like CLA's or other
functions. He does a lot for the chapter so we have to be careful to
not offend him.
Your suggestion?
The answer is simply: gentle
confrontation. There is not a comfortable way of bringing personal
hygiene to someone's attention. My philosohy is that no one can correct
a problem unless he/she knows the problem. And it really is not fair
for people to talk behind the person's back. Hygiene issues often
alienate colleagues and customers, leading to many undesirable
consequences. By confronting the person you are being honest with them,
and you want to help. "I need to talk with you about an issue that is
somewhat difficult to discuss. Frankly, I am uncomfortable bringing it
up, but as your friend [supervisor, manager], I feel that I should. I
have noticed that there is a rather unusual odor about your body
[breath]. This might indicate a medical problem. I wanted you to be
aware of it."
If they react negatively, you could suggest they talk to their
physician. If they ask if others have complained, be honest and say
that a few have mentioned it. Do not give names because that will
create another set of problems.
Gentle confrontation is the fair and only answer.
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